I really do love them

My kids. I do. Honestly. But is there ever a day when I don't have to feel like all I'm ever doing is getting on to them? I mean I absolutely hate getting on to them. I sometimes feel like a horrible mother because I feel like that is ALL I ever do, punish my kids. I know they don't see it right now but it will be better for them in the future and hopefully me too, but seriously, how hard is it to do something the 1st time I ask and with NO attitude???? Does anyone have any suggestions?